Updated: Jan 12
The mind likes habit and repetition and that’s what I found in my client Andy, who came to me with anxiety, loss of a loved one, a divorce and bad business experiences.
He hadn’t slept well for 10 years, waking up in the middle of the night thinking about work, his past and then without fail, he’d be sick from coughing.
But this was only happening Monday to Friday, not at the weekends. The main goal of our subconscious is to keep us happy and safe. Here, the subconscious wanted to keep Andy safe and away from the job he didn’t like, but the effect was that he wasn’t happy. The subconscious part of the mind loves a puzzle and trying to help you solve it, especially while you’re asleep or don’t even realise it, but this can feel like we are consciously and continuously worrying.
There are two types of worrying: 1. Worry that we can’t do anything about, so why don’t we stop worrying?
2. Worry that we can do something about, so let’s do something about it. I like to say, turn the worry into a puzzle and solve it!
During our first 90-minute session I asked him: “How good would it feel to have a relaxing breakfast feel every day of the week?” When Andy’s subconscious realised that he was going to go to work regardless of being sick and it was failing to keep him happy, it was keen to change.
After that he slept all night and wasn’t sick. He’d taken control and made the change and you can too.
The Control System which I use for my therapies, can be used to change almost any current pattern of thought you are unhappy with.
Book a free consultation with me to find out how I can help – I always give you some practical advice to take away and use, so without any obligation, you will find out how to start the change.