Updated: Jan 12
Imagine a big jigsaw puzzle of Big Ben. Then take a large handful of pieces, throw them over your shoulder and start to put together what’s left. I can’t imagine it would be that much fun!
Our minds can often take this kind of challenge on. When we suffer a traumatic event that doesn’t make any sense, we often get locked in that moment. Part of our subconscious becomes unable to move on until we can make sense of it and put it to rest in our mind. This then becomes an unsolvable puzzle. It can lead us to struggle to enjoy solitary time due to negative thoughts invading our thinking. Some of us will look to drink or drugs to numb the feelings and quieten the thoughts; others lean on food to lift the spirits.
These traumatic events were never meant to make sense and anything we were going to learn from them was learnt at the time. The future requires us to give that part of the mind permission to concern itself with puzzles that can be solved. These are the puzzles of today, not yesterday.
This can be especially true with grief and loss. Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one is not about forgetting them or how much we felt for that person. It is about being able to remember the good times without them being tainted by sadness over the loss. By moving on from the feelings of loss we get to remember the loved one freely, fondly and without the pain or flashbacks.
The Control System, which I use in my therapies, leads you away from trauma and flashbacks, confusion and inability to understand. You can allow them to fill your mind, warm your heart, and make you remember with a smile and not a tear.
By using direct communication with the most powerful and creative part of your mind, The Control System puts you back in charge of your own thoughts and responses.
Control your today and change your tomorrow.